Do you ever feel like you “should” be further along—working harder, or achieving more? If so, you’re not alone. We’ve all internalized messages from parents, teachers, or society at large. And if you didn’t filter out all the negative ideas, you were left with an unrelenting list of things you think you “should” be doing, “should” be achieving, and “should” be feeling.
The Hidden Cost of "Shoulds"
When we impose "shoulds" on ourselves for things we don't even truly believe in—and then fail at doing them—our confidence chips away. And when your confidence takes a hit, so does your business. Think about it: how many opportunities have fallen through the cracks because you didn’t act naturally? Often, we seek opinions and look to everyone but ourselves for the answers. This is the trap we all fall into.
I spent years looking for answers outside of myself, only to discover that the best solutions come from trusting our own thinking and acting in a way that’s right for us. If you’re around my age like I am, you know that life is literally too short to live based on other people's opinions.
Building a Life That Reflects Your True Self
To make real shifts in both your personal life and your business, we need to start building a life that truly reflects our own circumstances. It all starts with catching the “shoulds” you tell yourself. Recognizing these imposed expectations is the first step toward reclaiming your authenticity.
Here’s What I Recommend
Pay Attention to the Voice of “Shoulds”:Get really good at catching those moments when you start imposing “shoulds” on yourself. Awareness is the key to breaking the cycle.
Ask Yourself Why:Where are these “shoulds” coming from? Are they your original ideas, or are they just things you think you need to do based on external pressures?
Build Your Own Way of Living:Create a lifestyle that suits you by building a strong foundation of confidence. Discover your own path in life—not anyone else’s. Trust yourself enough to design a life that feels natural and authentic.
Trust Yourself and Bet on Yourself
I promise you that when you believe in yourself and start embracing who you truly are, everything in your business and personal life will work out. Life is a game of trust, and the most important trust you can place is in yourself. When you bet on your own potential and follow your own instincts, you empower yourself to overcome challenges and seize opportunities.
Remember, the only thing you should do is be yourself. When you let go of external expectations, you create room for genuine growth and authentic success.
Taking the Next Step
If you’re tired of living by the dictates of “shoulds” and are ready to reclaim your authentic life, it’s time to start listening to your own voice. Build your confidence, trust your instincts, and design a life that is uniquely yours. Every step you take in this direction not only transforms your personal life but also has a profound impact on your business.
If you want to learn more about transforming your self-image and business, consider joining my 14-week Retreat. It’s designed to give you the confidence boost you need to finally break free from the trap of “shoulds” and start living the life that truly reflects who you are.
To your success,
Doug
P.S. P.S. Life is too short to live based on other people's opinions. Join my 14-week Retreat and start reclaiming the life that’s rightfully yours. 🚀
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